Parents, Pick Your Poison
Hurt Your Children, or Take Their Things
Honest Question: Do you ever remember when you’d happily play in the mud or with your food, and out of nowhere, you were confronted by a loud adult, scaring you and possibly hurting you?
That’s the world many children find themselves in; they’re “in trouble” for acting like the kids they are.
Below, we have a video where a woman was presented with a choice for smearing a cake her mother baked; she and her sister had to decide:
Get spanked for the cake mess, and go to Chuck-E-Cheese
Don’t get spanked, and no longer go to Chuck-E-Cheese
Parents,
There’s nothing “classy” about presenting your children with a lose-lose scenario to prove a point. Corporal Punishment should not be something your child feels they deserve for acting like a child…
Watch the video, and if you’re a paying subscriber, let us know in the comments whether you feel this is an appropriate choice to present to your children and why.
- Zac
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“You can either come here and take your spanking, or you lose something you care about.”
Sounds familiar? Maybe you’ve said it. Perhaps you grew up hearing it. Either way, it’s a destructive strategy posing as discipline.
What’s really happening here?
A child is shoved into a corner and forced to choose between two forms of punishment: physical pain or emotional loss. On the surface, it might seem like an effective way to handle misbehavior. But dig deeper, and you’ll find it’s loaded with psychological warfare tactics.
No-Win Scenarios Breed Resentment
No matter what you choose, you lose. You either endure the humiliation and pain of a spanking or suffer the heartbreak of losing something that matters to you. This isn’t teaching accountability; it’s teaching powerlessness and instilling defeat in the child.
Modeling Dysfunctional Behavior
When you use spanking or emotional manipulation as tools for discipline, you’re modeling the very behavior you don’t want your kids to adopt. You’re teaching them that it’s okay to lash out physically or emotionally when someone doesn’t do what you want. Then, years down the line, you wonder why they can’t regulate their emotions or resolve conflicts without blowing up. The worst part is that parents will swear that they turned out “fine” but struggle to maintain healthy relationships in their lives.
Rebellion or Submission: Both Are Harmful
Back a kid into a corner, and you’ll get one of two responses: rebellion or submission. The rebellious kid fights back, challenging authority at every turn. The submissive kid shuts down, burying their feelings and needs to avoid conflict. Neither response is healthy and has negative consequences that’ll haunt them into adulthood.
Your job is to guide them, not scare them into submission. Every scenario and interaction with your child can have a Win-Win outcome, where both of you learn and grow from the experience. Nothing good comes from using violence, threats, restrictions, or control to your children.
- Anthony